This is a picture of my mom going fishing with my son when he was about 3 years old. I love the way he's looking up at her and participating in what I'm sure was a very important conversation about the wonders of nature.
Some of my favorite quotes:
- My life is my message. - Mahatma Ghandi
- Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be. - David Bly
- The secret to happiness is not in doing what one likes to do, but in liking what one has to do. - Anonymous
- A friend is one who knows us, but loves us anyway. - Fr. Jerome Cummings
- Work is love made visible.- Khalil Gibran, The Prophet
I've been thinking about the BLUE one a lot lately since I'm starting to hear my own words come out of my 6 year old's mouth. Here are some examples:
Kira went into Will's room the other day. William's room is supposed to be "off limits" because of all the little lego pieces that she could choke on. She seems to find her way over to his room anytime his door is left open. He'll usually let her stay as he enjoys her company until she breaks something. After that scenario played out one morning last week, I heard him say to her, "Kira, you MAY NOT be in here. Kira, that is UNACCEPTABLE."
Today he said, "Mom watch" then he took his gum out of his mouth with a kleenex and threw the kleenex wrapped gum into the garbage and continued, "wasn't that APPROPRIATE of me?"
I was on the computer making a playlist for my blog (see the lovely new feature at the bottom of this page) and I spent a little too long working on it. William was sure to come over and let me know that I was having "TOO MUCH SCREENTIME".
We're always working on manners and being polite. Will was in the living room with Kira and I overhead him say, "Yay Kira! You finally got in the right way...but EXCUSE ME Kira, I'm SORRY I have to take it away."
We're constantly working on coping skills and I'm always reminding him to take a deep breath to calm himself down when he gets upset. He was tying his shoelace and got frustrated and walked away saying, "Uh, my brain just forgets how to do it!" I said, "Yeah, sometimes we just need to take breaks." He TAKES A BREATH and says, "Yeah, and then when I calm down my brain will remember how to do it."
When I'm talking passionately about something, my husband says, "Ok Carolyn" (because I sound like my mom.)
Speaking of mom - she always taught us to stand up for what we believe and to speak our mind. She taught us the value of education and how to research something for ourselves so we can formulate our own opinion on the matter. She taught us to say what needs to be said even if our voice shakes. She instilled in us the importance of using non-violent communication. She doesn't make small talk. All conversations are substantial. We are responsible for our own reactions to a situation. Synergy is important in relationships. Divorce is best handled through Collaborative Law. Wisdom is important. She taught us these things by her actions and her words and by simply living life and being herself. I am thankful for that.
Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be. - David Bly
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